Supporting Caregivers: What Not to Say Matters
Caregiving is an act of heart and strength—but it often comes with emotional and physical strain.
More than one‑fifth of Americans are caregivers, many of them facing isolation, stress, and burnout every day. In such a demanding role, words matter. A seemingly innocent comment can magnify guilt, loneliness, or frustration—and it’s not always easy to spot the kind of well-meaning remarks that might have that effect.
That’s why we appreciated U.S. News & World Report’s article, “10 Things You Should Never Say to a Caregiver”. It offers a thoughtful look at common phrases that can unintentionally sting—and provides practical, more supportive alternatives.
Here are a few examples that stood out to us:
“You need to take care of yourself.”
Sounds supportive, but can feel dismissive when caregivers barely have time for essentials.
“I wish I could help.”
Though heartfelt, it may intensify feelings of isolation if no concrete support follows.
“You should get help.”
This can belittle a caregiver’s insight and experience—implying they’ve overlooked their own needs.
Dive Deeper & Show Up
Comments like these often come from a place of empathy. But without awareness, they can add to the weight caregivers already carry. Learning what not to say is one small step toward showing up in a more meaningful way.
If someone in your life is overwhelmed—whether they’re caregiving or being cared for—creating a PowerPak Page is a simple, tangible way to offer real help. It’s free, it’s easy, and it’s one of the ways we’re helping compassionate people like you rally meaningful support through thoughtful actions.
